Common Problems

Relationships are constantly changing; they may include perfect moments but in a sustained relationship there are many highs, lows and lengthy plateaus. Even in strong partnerships there will be times when changes happen and you may hit rockier patches.

Relationship problems can be trigged by a multitude of issues. Sometimes major life events such as job loss or illness can cause significant personal and relationship stress which tests the partnership to breaking point.

Some relationships labour under the pressure of one partner suffering an addiction or substance abuse problem. Often sexual issues can create tension and due to the nature of the subject matter some people are reluctant to talk things through, leading to a breakdown in communication. Many relationships continue to function, albeit imperfectly, through infidelity or physical abuse.

The stress of managing money or children can slowly affect the health of a relationship; when you are too busy dealing with the pressures of everyday life it is sometimes easier to simply ignore the effects on your relationship.

If you think your relationship is in trouble then you are probably right. However, many issues and problems can be resolved and they don't have to mean separation or divorce. If you still have a connection, have been together for a long time or you have children, you may want to try and salvage a relationship rather than walk away.

Whatever is concerning you, the first step is to acknowledge the problem exists and then to understand the root cause of the problem before finding the tools, support and guidance to help you to cope and move forward positively.

Whatever your problem someone else has faced it as well. The following sections draw upon the advice and experience of people who have survived and sustained their relationships through significant crises.